It’s Time To Know Your Worth

There was a time, actually for a very long time, I did not know my self worth. I put my worth in the hands of others and those who didn’t know how to love the way I deserved to be loved. I finally reached a point in my life, where I had to literally learn how to know my self worth. Knowing yourself worth involved a lot of self reflection, learning to protect your peace from anything or anyone that caused any hinderance in your life. You would never think that it would be so hard to love your own self, as you would do for others. I actually fell into the pattern of doing for others not really realizing that I was lacking in my self worth. After so many years not standing in my own self worth, it really took some work to discipline my own self to put myself first. Not loving yourself and knowing your worth can really can really throw you in a depression bc of your expectations of someone loving you the way you love someone else. When you should be loving yourself first before you can really even love any one else. (wow that was a mouth full, lol)When you are not careful and end up in an unhealthy relationship, that other person can really walk all over you and take your love for granted. Its been a process and I have had to learn over time with one relationship to another. But I will say that since I have been working on myself, it has gotten a lot easier to tell someone no or to set certain boundaries to protect my peace. In this season of my life, I would have to say that the one thing that I am learning the most is to be patient. Just like anything else it takes time and consistency to reach a point where you can actually stand in confidence to know your self worth and take no bullshit. There where a few steps that I learned on this journey of self worth.

Here are 5 Steps That Directed Me To Knowing My Self Worth

1. Make yourself a #1 priority. Don’t argue with yourself and just do it.

2. Learn about Codependency. I will never forget the day I decided to go to a group session that was about codependency. I can remember that I fought myself to even go. I made myself go (trying to be teachable) and I am so glad that I did. I became aware of things that I didn’t even realize was going on in my relationship and didn’t even know codependency was a thing. Just knowing the definition of it took blinders off my eyes. “Codependency is a circular relationship in which one person needs the other person, who in turn, needs to be needed. The codependent person, known as ‘the giver,’ feels worthless unless they are needed by — and making sacrifices for — the enabler, otherwise known as ‘the taker. 

3. Learn about Narcissism. Here is another one that I wasn’t aware of but I’m not going to go to much in detail on this topic. That will be a topic in itself with a whole other blog.

4. Set Boundaries. This one took a lot more strength. I didn’t realize how so many didn’t even respect your own personal time and space. When someone is so use to you always saying, yes all the time. You come to realize when you tell someone no, how offended they get. I cant say anything bc I was one that didnt like the answer no but I also had to learn to except it even on my end.

5. Dont let fear stop you. If there is one thing that hinders us more than anything, it is fear. Over the years there where so many battles that I faced and I had to push myself past my fears. Even the fear of being rejected or not loved by applying the 1st couple steps to my journey of self worth.