10 Ways to get over him after a breakup

No matter if you slowly take your guard down or if you fall to fast for someone. We always see the potential in someone and then we allow that potential to give us hope. Till we eventually find out the he isn’t the one. After you have opened your heart to then and then you find out that his words to match his words and he doesn’t love you the same way you love them. However, this can be deceiving because a man can not love us the same way because we all have different love languages. The best thing to keep an eye on is if his actions line up with the things he tell you. When they don’t we start wondering has he has been lying to you this whole time, or has he been trying to put up some type of front of that type of man he really is? It is so important to take your time to really get to know someone and also know who you are or have even become during the process and even figuring out your own flaws. But when you love him and will do anything to work through difficult times. when things aren’t perfect, when flaws are seen, mistakes are made and he isn’t. This is when you find out how much love is really there. Anyone can love someone when someone who is doing and saying all the right things. To love someone at their lowest, to love someone at their most broken moment, when they are lost and you or him are willing to stand by them no matter how challenging or difficult things may be. I think that kind of love is a love is a lot more beautiful and meaningful. To love one another when things are good and when things are bad and helping each other become the best version of each other possible. Growing together!

When this doesn’t happen and they walk away we experience great pain by being off caught off guard by putting so much time and effort into something that was so easy to let go of. We live with hurt and pain feeling as if we aren’t good enough. Not understanding if he says, he loves you, then why was it so easy to say Good-Bye? We end up feeling heartbroken, low, depressed, finding a way to fill this void. No one likes to feel rejected after putting so much time and effort into something that is just cut off like nothing. The pain feels like you have been stabbed in the heart.

However, we must move on even if you are left without any closure and we can not help what others feel about us or how they even respond to a breakup that makes it easier for them to even deal with. That leaves us lost!

If this is the case then they are not meant to be with you and there is better out there and take this as a lesson learned. We should never allow a guy to have that much power over us to the point the rob us from who we where before you even got together. Filling full of life and happiness. Pick yourself back up and start doing the things that you were doing that made you happy. Find a way that helps you to move one and forget all about the man that doesn’t even deserve you anyway.

1. CRY – Get it all out. Tears are huge part of healing. Then pick yourself back up!

2. Do the things that keep you busy. Don’t allow the hurt to hold you back from living again. Take your power back and get back up with your girls and start doing the things you love.

3. Accept that you deserve better. It don’t matter how many memories that you have together. How good he made you feel and the potential he has bc if this guy really loved you he wouldn’t of let you go that east in the first place. He would be at your door taking your feelings into consideration, being selfless, not self fish and know that his feelings are not the only ones that matter in a relationship because it takes the both of you and a lot of communication. Listen to your mind and not so much your heart. Knowing that you deserve better and there is someone out there who wants you for who you truly are.

4. We are so good at always seeing the potential in other people that start putting ourselves last. We have to continue to love ourselves first, stand in confidence knowing that no one can or will ever break you. Continue to stay focused on always building yourself up and keep your self esteem up. Out worth does not belong in the hands of someone else.

5. One of the worst things that we can do is set our expectations to high. When we do that we end up breaking out own hearts. We never are in control of what happens in our lives. Accept it for what it is and control your reactions to what has happened. No matter how much it hurts. The harder you try the more worse they try to make you feel by having control of the situation and act as if they have or have done nothing wrong at all and the way the react is only to help them feel better about themselves. If they are even hurt by the situation because they may just not give 2 shits and never loved you to begin with. So don’t expect any better from them because you wont get it. Not expecting anything helps us from setting ourselves up from ever getting hurt.

6. Do what you can to distract yourself from the one that broke your heart. Do things that make you happy and make yourself laugh. Laughter is another part of healing your soul. It distracts you from having a care in the world.

7. Surround yourself with friends that are supportive. So that you can talk to them about whats on your mind. Dont go through it alone and they will support you and help you get through it.

8. Delete everything that will ever remind you of him or get rid of anything that will keep him on your mind.

9. Continue in self care! Go shopping, get your hair done, nails done. Do things that make you feel better about yourself.

10. Workout so that you can boost your dopamine and self love. Make yourself a priority by taking care of yourself physically. It helps relieve stress.

Point is you deserve better and you know it. The relationship should never be one sided. If he isnt willing to work through the hard times and only stick around when there is no tension. Then that is unfair to you. Love yourself first and never ignore the red flags. If he never loved you then consider yourself lucky because now you no longer have to waist any more time on anyone who isn’t even worth your time or effort!

CHAIN BREAKING MOM