8 Things Hurt Women Now Know

From my very own experience of my heart being broken time and time again. I can say that it has changed the way I look at people, relationships and even myself.

There comes a time when we shut down, protect and even hide our vulnerability after being hurt so many times and putting your trust in the hands of someone else.

After time dealing with emotions that you have tried so hard to control after being hurt. There are certain techniques and self awareness that you can process but after having your heart broke there really isn’t a complete feeling. We deal with our emotions in the only way we know how in that very moment. Even after years have gone by you will still never be the same woman. You will always have those scars. After being hurt so many times here are things that have changed me.

1. First impressions don’t win you over. As we all should know anyways we are always trying to impress the other person in some way when we first meet them. After being hurt you take your time to see the true colors before allowing yourself to be completely comfortable or vulnerable with them.
2. Love isn’t enough. I can say I have met all kinds of different people through out my life. The ones that left you completely brokenhearted are the ones you fell in love with. There is no idea, fairy tale or movie type of romance. These days it literally takes 2 to work hard equally to BUILD a strong relationship. You don’t just find love.
3. You can still wear your heart on your sleeve, have compassion and have a big heart. However, you know not to be so gullible, naive or blind by the words that are spoken. You eventually learn to sit back and watch others actions and if your quite enough you will hear the truth from someone else. They end up telling on themselves and don’t even realize it. But even in this because we have such a good heart we still try to make excuses for them and ignore the red flags.
4. I learned that I will be more understanding if you are 100% with me. But if you try to play mind games and you cant be open and honest by saying what you mean and mean what you say. I will hold you accountable for your actions not following what you have said, by being a man of your word. Don’t tell me one thing and then do the exact opposite.
5. After being heart broken and seeked healing from the scars , you end up finding someone within yourself that you didn’t know existed. So you never settle to be around anyone else that doesn’t except you for who you are.
6. You learn not to be so open all at one time and set up boundaries.
7. Don’t be so available
8. Its OK to fight for someone you love but its not OK to fight for someone to “LOVE” you.

Chain Breaking Mom