The Pros And Cons When It Came To Dating

Being single I have started to say that it can be just as frustrating then being in a toxic relationship. After giving time to others who have taking me out on dates, there has been time and time again that I have been so ready to throw in the towel. And then as soon as I say I’m done I’m not going out on another date or putting any time or effort into anyone else. A good friend put it to me like this: That I will soon come across that right one after I weed out all the bad ones. Its become like some type of hustle that honestly has just gotten old and annoying. However, there has been a few good things that have come of it all.

1. Is that I have gotten to know a few really good men that I consider just friends. I think that it is important that we women also have a few good guy friends in our lives. They can help keep you grounded.
2. Just bc a guy is nice to you doesn’t automatically mean they want to be with you or y’all should be together. This guy just has a kind heart and you always want to keep that good guy friend close by.
3. One of the things that I had to do was create some kind of check lists. Something that you may have to do after dating someone and picking out the pros and cons of the person that you are dating. Then its all about just making a simple decision to work together in a relationship along with good communication.
4. Dating sites! OMG! You know, I have known a couple people who have met their significant other through a dating site. So I simply can’t say its bad bc it may be good for some. However, when it came to me – I can’t explain the things that I came across. They were just simply a freaking turn off and can’t believe how low men have gotten or even women. SMH! So, a dating site was a no go for me.
5. After making a checklists, give yourself time to really get to know a person. I always say “TIME TELLS ALL”. We are always going to try and make a good first impression for somebody. So some may hide who they really are and in due time the real them will come afloat. This is why I may scare some away bc I’m like an open book and I am as real as it gets bc I’m not putting up a front for nobody. Which this doesn’t mean that I am not kind bc I have been told I am, sweet, kind and humble.
6. I have learned that there are so many insecure men. Therefore, you may have to be the one that has to make the first approach.
7. Also, I realized even after me being cheated on and everything that I went through. There are so many married men that hit on me more then there are single men that will hit on you. SMH!
8. Take risk! You will never know if you allow fear and doubt to always win over not meeting the one that is meant for you.
9. There has been big losses in the whole dating game but the biggest thing that I have gained through the whole process is the fact that I have learned a lot about men and even a lot about myself.
10. Don’t give up! There has been so many that haven’t turned out to be the one but the next amazing date might just be the one around the corner. ; )

CHAIN BREAKING MOM